The purpose of this guide is to support teachers/tutors in resolving conflicts within Learning Sets through Interpersonal Small Group Mediation strategies.
As I have expressed in a number of articles on my site collaborativegrouplearning.com, Learning Sets are dynamic group structures designed to engineer and facilitate both effective socialised-learning and social relationships. The three principles of:
1: 6 in number;
2: Heterogeneous in character (diversely mixed);
3: Sustained overtime;
have the potential to either enable high functioning learning and social relationships or low functioning learning and social relationships. To enable the desired outcome of the Learning Set relationships must be nurtured by all 7 members of the Learning Set; the 6 students and the 1 tutor.
As with any group, problems and issues concerning relationships can emerge and if unresolved can evolve into corrosively negative group relations. The key therefore is to enable the successful resolution of substantive, communication and relational problems as they emerge. Vigilance, swift action and mediation on the part of the tutor can enable the group to locate the causes, course and consequences of the problem or issue and with this foster healthier Learning Set relationship.
A Learning Set’s success is in direct correlation with the strength of the Learning Set’s relationship.
The long term goal is to enable students to better negotiate their own solutions to substantive, communication and relational problems. Students need to recognise that the relationship of the group is the responsibility of every member. Through modelling and interventions such as Learning Set Mediation, students can come to be ever more self-regulating, aware of how to negotiate their way through the complexities of learning and social relationships. Within this process the Learning Set’s tutor plays a key role.
Learning Set Mediation involves:
- Voluntary participation (all members of the Learning Set agree to it
- Face-to-face discussions between the parties in conflict facilitated through the tutor as mediator
- An unbiased mediator who helps those involved to understand each other’s point of view and come to an agreement
- Equal opportunities for all participants to speak and explain their perspective
- All relevant information being shared openly by all participants
- A shared agreement between the parties
- Revisiting the agreement to ensure application and resolution
The Role of the Learning Set Mediator:
As mediator the teacher of tutor’s role is to enable the process of mediation to be undertaken.
The key to effective mediation is the tutors fulfillment of organisational and communication duties. Good communication during the act of mediation is crucial. Good communication involves the mediator putting aside their own views and feelings in order to help the parties listen to and understand each other. To these ends the tutor must place themselves physically within the group acting as a conduit of communication for mediation (discussion-resolution).
A mediator needs a range of skills, including:
- Active listening skills;
- Questioning and clarifying skills (reflective listening, normalizing, reframing) to grasp both the facts and the areas of controversy;
- Emotional intelligence to understand the underlying emotions;
- Summarising skills to set out the main points of controversy, and underlying emotions, and also to help the participants to reframe issues in less emotive language; and
- Empathy to help each party to stand in each other’s shoes and understand each other’s point of view.
As a mediator the tutor must not take sides, or be seen to be acting unfairly. Acknowledge points made by all parties, and spend equal time with each person or on their issues, enabling them to speak and actively listening.
The task is complex but is essentially all about being fair, listening to all and enabling all to speak. It is about not reaching a personal judgement but helping the group find an agreement enabling them all to move forward. Enabling, through questioning, to get to the root cause of the problem or issue by helping the group to:
- track back from consequences (the present situation);
- through the course (he said-she said);
- to the cause (where did it begin and why?).
Mediation can be time consuming and will require a number of daily-weekly-monthly sessions, all depending on the nature and complexity of the problem or issue.
The time spent however can reap rewards for all involved in the long run and for the tutor cement their role as an informed and important member of the Learning Set.
The Mediation Process:
1: Preparation
- Select a place to conduct the mediation. This should be a neutral and private space, free of interruptions, where the group can sit together in a circle with the mediator sat as part of this circle.
- Each session should last not more than 20 minutes.
- When sat in the circle members should be distraction free; nothing in their hands to fiddle with.
- Once in the space and sat the mediator needs to introduce themselves, set out the mediator’s role (to be impartial and help to communicate and reach their solution) and lay out the ‘ground rules’ for the mediation process. These should include the basic rules of communication (once voice at a time, eye contact with the speaker, no interruptions, use of a person’s name when referring to them) and confidentiality.
2: Reconstructing and Understanding the Conflict
Through questioning, active listening, revoicing and management of the group:
- Enable each member in turn to identify the present situation (the consequence, problem and/or issue)
- Enable each member in turn to identify their feelings and emotions concerning the present situation (repeat these emotions back to enable all to recognise them)
- Enable each member in turn to identify how the present situation has come to be (the course of actions towards the present problem and/or issue)
- Enable each member in turn to identify what they believe the starting point or cause is of the present situation (the cause of the problem and/or issue)
3: Defining Points of Agreement and Dispute
During this stage, the tutor’s role is to help all to move towards a position where they start to understand each other’s point of view, and can then begin to resolve the shared problem.
- Enable the group to move from a focus on the past to one on the future.
- Enable the group to see areas of agreement, commonality and shared feelings.
4: Creating Options for Resolution
- Enable the group to develop options for resolution.
- Help the group select the most likely to succeed option (relevant, achievable, suits all parties).
- When relevant offer tools to aid the successful application of the preferred option (Communication Cards, Learning Set Role Cards, Learning Set Report)
- When relevant help the group to develop evaluation criteria, which should ideally be objective and in order of importance, for the successful application of the agreed option.
5: Moving Forward
- Enable the group to agree to the proposed resolution.
- When relevant set the group or individuals SMART targets to enable the successful application of the resolution.
- Agree a follow up meeting to discuss how things are moving forward.
A Potential Mediation Script:
1: Preparation
“Thank you for making the time to be here today and thank you for joining the circle.”
“This is not about blaming anyone but a chance for us all to understand what the situation is, what has happened and how it is effecting you all.”
“My role in this process is to be impartial, listening to what you all say and helping you all through effective communication reach a solution to the present situation so that we can all move forward.”
“Before we begin there are some ground rules to cover. For this to work well we must apply the basic rules of communication which are once voice at a time, eye contact with the speaker, no interruptions and the use of a person’s name when referring to them. Everyone will have many chances to speak and I would like to remind you all that everything you say here today is confidential. However if you say something that makes me really concerned about your safety and wellbeing I will have to report it to…”
2: Reconstructing and Understanding the Conflict
“Let’s take it in turn to share our thoughts and feelings about the situation. (name) will start first and we will move around the group in a clockwise direction listening to what everyone has to say”.
“….what is the problem/issue/situation as you see it?” “How does this affect you?”
“….what has been happening to get to this point, can you think of any situations or examples of things that have happened?” “What has been your involvement?”
“I think I understand what you are saying, is it right to say that…”
“What started all this off?”
“What do you feel has caused this situation/to get out of control?”
3: Defining Points of Agreement and Dispute
“The past is just that, what can we do together to move forward? …what do you feel we could do?”
“I hear what you are saying, what do you…feel?”
“What I noticed when you were talking this through is that you agreed about…”
“Can we use what you agree about as starting point for a possible solution?”
4: Creating Options for Resolution
“Do you believe…that this is an effective resolution? How would you make it better? Who agrees/disagrees? What’s your opinion…?”
“I agree/disagree that the option you are suggesting will be the most effective at resolving the situation because…What are your thoughts…?”
“What resources could I offer you to help you all move forward? Perhaps….would be of use.”
“I think that those evaluation criteria will work really well because…”
“I feel that some of those evaluation criteria could be enhanced a little, for example…”
5: Moving Forward
“Do we all agree to the proposed resolution? Why do you…agree to the resolution? Why do you…disagree to the resolution?”
“What would be the best SMART targets that you feel you could all follow to ensure that…”
“We will meet again…in order to see how things are moving forward, is this ok with everybody?”
Developed with help from:
http://www.skillsyouneed.com/ips/mediation-skills.html#ixzz427eU7BsP (accessed 06/03/16)
Thorsborne. M., & Vinegrad. D. ( 2011) Restorative Justice Pocketbook, Teachers Pocketboks. Hampshire.
Ongoing research into situated group dynamics.